Barbara Sadler: Getting Ahead in Divorce

Divorces can be incredibly stressful affairs that are difficult on you and your children. However, the worst-case scenario for your divorce does not have to come to fruition. A little careful planning and preparation can help you mitigate the potential problems that could come your way in your divorce.

Way to Progress in Divorce

The following are a few examples of steps you can take:

Keep a journal: Keep daily records of anything that happens related to your divorce. This could include everything you do with your children, what they do with their other parent, arguments that happen in the home, poor behavior by your spouse and anything else that could potentially influence your case.

Gather evidence: Get as much proof as you can to back up the things you have written in your journal. You might consider looking for witnesses who can testify on your behalf or documenting noteworthy incidents with the police. You should also collect evidence of spending or unusual withdrawals from accounts.

Maintain as positive a living environment: Not only will doing this help your children to continue to have at least a somewhat stable and normal life, but it will also reflect well on you as a parent in court.

Consult an attorney: Find a divorce lawyer you feel comfortable with and who you know will represent your best interests. Keep communication with your attorney as confidential as possible. Your legal counsel can help you determine the best way to approach your divorce and how you can obtain the best possible outcome.

Children May Benefit from Therapy After Divorce

It’s not just the people going through a divorce who may benefit from therapy during and after the process — it can be extremely beneficial for the children involved, as well.

A child who goes through therapy tends to be more proactive when it comes to seeking solutions to problems, be better equipped to deal with stressful situations and have a different perspective of what is happening in their lives and how they view the future.

Of course, the caveat with children’s therapy is the same as with anyone else. The child must be willing to participate in the process if it is to have any effect. The only way children will benefit is if they truly want to talk through their problems with the therapist. Many times, they are more willing to do so if they know at least one of their parents is also going through therapy.

Signs a child needs therapy

How can you tell if your child may benefit from therapy? In general, almost any child whose parents get divorced can benefit from therapy at least to some extent. It is particularly beneficial, however, for children who have indicated the following:

Signs of depression, anger or aggression
Repeated rule breaking when it was not previously a problem
Sudden impulsiveness or propensity for risk-taking and seeking
Anger toward one or both parents
Exposure to conflict between the parents
Substance abuse or eating disorders
Sudden unusual health problems
An unwillingness to participate in conversations
Sudden changes of friend groups

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If you have a question about divorce law or if you need to start or defend against a divorce case in Utah call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We will fight for you.